A Personal Trainer is a Person Too!

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If this is your first time visiting, welcome! Feel free to read my very first blog post from a few days ago for an overview of what you can expect from me and this Blog. Once you are done, feel free to come back and we’ll get started on today’s topic. This particular topic is very dear to me (as will become obvious as you start to read) and will hopefully give you a little more insight into what makes me tick and how, regardless of the career I’ve chosen as a personal trainer and fitness educator, I’m not that different from you.

I’m sure you recall my “normal” comment from my first post. I chose to become a Personal Trainer for a couple of reasons. (1) Because I have a passion for helping you live a healthy life and make huge changes, and (2) Because there is no greater motivation to stay in shape yourself when you have people ‘expecting’ you to be the Pro. And that’s the truth folks! Most trainers will never tell you reason #2, but it’s there!

Yes, I am a Personal Trainer and with that position comes a lot of expectation but you see, I am a VERY normal woman with very normal struggles. I am NOT a Size 2 fitness model who eats only to fuel my body, who wakes every morning with a spring in my step as I eagerly tie my shoes to run a 10K to an early morning Zumba class before spending the rest of my day bouncing joyfully between clients, fitness classes and the weight stacks, finally finishing my day with a tasty protein shake and a hot yoga class. OK. Typing that just made me tired. But be honest, that is what we picture Personal Trainers doing right? Well friend, I must be honest … this is NOT my life! First, I L.O.V.E. food…too much! I understand the need to eat to fuel your body but I also understand what it is like to eat because you are hungry, bored, sad, happy, or virtually any excuse you can think of to eat. I also DON’T always like to exercise. GASP! I know!! Sometime as I drag my sorry, tired butt out of bed, carrying my shoes in my hands so I can tiptoe past my kiddies bedrooms, terrified (or perhaps hoping I will some days) wake them before I get a chance to start any sort of exercise – which is inevitably cut short by the sounds of children eager to get their day started. Ah, perhaps I’ll exercise later … if I manage to keep everything and everyone together today and still find the energy after everyone goes to bed tonight to finish my workout. Cause that happens ALL the time. LOL. Are you starting to get the picture?

Let me say it again. I AM NORMAL! Whew, glad I got that off my chest!My Cartoon

Why am I telling you this? Because I believe that being “normal” puts me in a much better position to talk to you and help you on your own path to wellness. I have a slight edge over some of my beautiful fellow fitness professionals (who I have tremendous respect for) but who have never had to struggle with their weight, who live to exercise, or have never had to witness what happens to their body when they have one, two and three children! Yikes!!  I am better able to connect with the struggles of so many people in our society because I GET the struggle but I also GET how great it feels when you can reach your goals.

Stay tuned in the coming days and weeks as I discuss what I believe to be the major factors in finding your own journey to wellness.

Plus, this is a special week as I am launching my updated and popular online fat loss program. I’ve been working very hard the last few weeks on my website, Handbooks and videos and I can’t wait to release it this week, along with lots of freebies, discounts and prizes!

Chat soon!

~ Deborah


To Blog or Not to Blog … Here we Go!

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onlinefatloss-helloworldI’ve debated starting a Blog many times in the past but what I felt was a lack of time, coupled with some negative self-talk that nobody would want to read what I have to share, or worse, that they would hate what I had to say, held me back. It wasn’t until at a get-together recently, I was introduced to a new friend and shared what I “do” for a living that I started to think differently. This wasn’t just an “Oh, you’re a trainer, how do I lose weight?” type of conversation … yes I have those as well. But this beautiful lady was truly interested in WHY I was a personal trainer, WHY I wanted to help people and she kept commenting on how NORMAL I actually was. (more about this in my next post).

Now to be honest, I try not to talk shop too much when I’m at social gatherings because as soon as people realize I’m a personal trainer, they either fear that I am going to start an impromtu fitness class, or the snack table becomes a place of guilt, shame and “Look Deborah, I have some veggies on my plate!”. I usually pre-empt this by being one of the first to take a chip and scoop up some dip saying how delicious it tastes and thanking the hostess for all her or his hard work! Besides the fact that I really DO LOVE chips and dip, it also breaks the ice and let’s everyone know I am not in a place to judge their eating tonight! What if I stopped getting invited to parties because nobody would eat in front of me?!? The devastation!

But this particular conversation was different. As we chatted about weight loss struggles, overcoming food temptations (we were still near the chip bowl, blasted thing!), the love-hate relationship with exercise, and how great success feels, I continued to see her smile and chime in, “That sounds just like me”, “Oh, that is definitely my biggest challenge”, “That is such a great tip” and “Are you sure you don’t mind me asking you all these questions?”. This of course was a wonderful ego boost for me (because let’s face it, with three children, a busy husband and no boss to tell me I did a good job), sometimes my self-esteem needs a little boosting too! But more importantly, it made me realize that I just might have something interesting to say and perhaps there are other people out there who could be interested as well. Perhaps it is even just the two of you (*waving hi*) and that’s ok!!

So what do I plan on posting about? Well, pretty much anything that I feel could potentially help someone out there try to be fit, healthy and happy. “Wellness” mean many things so that leaves a lot of ground for me to cover.

Which leads me to my offer to you. I do hope there will be times that my posts will resonate with you but if there is something in particular you would like to see, or perhaps a topic you have a question about, PLEASE do not hesitate to email me at I would be happy to write about it!

It is my goal that some of the advice I give, will stick with you and help you make the changes you need in your life to reach your goals. But I also understand there will be times when you will think I’m completely out-to-lunch (a well proportioned, healthy lunch of course but out-to-lunch nonetheless) and you may not necessarily agree with me.

And that’s perfectly ok as well. It’s ok to have a difference of opinions! There are so many conflicting studies, professional opinions, weight loss program, trainers, fitness instructors and even the wannabe Trainers (aka the bicep curl expert), that we can’t ALL be right ALL the time! I promise to give you my honest opinions on what I believe in my heart to encompass healthy living and “wellness” and I ask that you respect my opinions and the opinions of others by keeping all conversations and comments respectful. If you have something kind to say or even a little constructive criticism, please feel free to share. But, I do monitor posts and I will not post any comments that are meant to hurt or disgrace any individual or group. If you try to post it, I promise you it will NOT show up. I truly would love this page to grow to be a place that you can feel safe to visit for honest and NORMAL advice on what it takes to be fit, healthy and well. I invite you to join me on our journey to wellness.