Parenting

I Thought I Was Going to Die

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This is the story of life or death. Mine. If you have a few minutes, I encourage you to read it because I think there is something you can learn from my mistakes.

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Christmas 2011

Significant because it was my oldest son’s first Christmas yes, but also significant because it was the Christmas that gave me the biggest scare of my life.

And taught me a lesson that I want to now pass on to you.

Some of you may actually remember me going through quite an ordeal leading up to that Christmas. As usual for me in December, I caught a cold. But what happened next, knocked me on my butt more than anything else ever had,.
Pneumonia. And in true Deborah fashion, I didn’t let it slow me down (at first). I kept trying to teach classes. In fact, one class I could barely breathe and I had to sit on the floor and continue to teach.I survived the holidays (barely) by medicating with Tylenol and Advil to keep down the fever. I HAD to keep going. Of course as I look back now, I have no idea why I thought that way.

I was so afraid of disappointing people…my clients, class participants, friends, family.

How often do you put yourself last while trying to take care of everyone else? And Moms, you know we are the worst offenders! One evening just before the New Year, my fever was so high I had delirium. How in the world could I take care of anyone this way?!?

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Here is my Facebook status from that year….

December 30, 2011
I’ve learned if you ever want to sit by yourself, just put on a surgical face mask. LOL. People take one look at you and will sit ANYWHERE else!

Funny yes because you should have seen people back away from me but a pneumonia that continued to get worse despite two rounds of antibiotics became no laughing matter. I spent New Year’s Day, just five days after my 38th birthday listening to a doctor tell me he was extremely concerned because he couldn’t understand why someone as young and ‘healthy’ as me was continuing to get worse.

I remember crying and thinking, for the first time ever, I was going to die and leave behind two beautiful children. How did I let this happen?!?

But it had become a theme for me in December. Getting sick just before or during the holidays became the ‘norm’ for me. I wore myself out so much that I would have been surprised if I didn’t get sick. To give you a little perspective, here are more December Facebook posts from previous years and yes, I do realize perhaps I was a little too whiny on FB. 🙂

December 7, 2010
I felt bad (sorta) that I couldn’t do more than bark instructions at tonight’s Boot Camp. I’m now super annoyed and frustrated that I can’t get rid of this cold. Let’s see if I can breathe enough tonight to get a good night’s sleep!

December 1, 2009
Still nursing both myself and a little girl back to health. Hope this clears up soon!
 
December 13, 2008
Catching up on two weeks worth of work …. yep, the flu knocked me out but I’m starting to feel better!!
 
December 3, 2008
is very sick …. may have to cancel Boot Camp tonight guys!!! Will keep you posted!
 
December 13, 2007
Annoyed with this newly developed head cold. Training a client this morning and thought my head was going to explode!

And you thought I was kidding.

Moms, we wear ourselves out worrying about family photos, gifts, advent calendars, decorating a Pinterest worthy house (and posting it to social media of course), gifts, Christmas concerts, piano recitals, gifts, Sunday School pageants, pics with Santa, letters to Santa, tracking Santa online, get togethers with family and friends, work functions, traveling or hosting. And don’t forget about the normal everyday stuff that still needs to be done. And we wonder why we get sick!

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Even worse, December is a time when most of us let exercise and healthy eating slide and we start cutting back on our sleep in our attempt to find more hours in a day. “I’ll start fresh in the New Year” becomes a common phrase and we start putting all our other ‘priorities’ ahead of our own health.

And our health is indeed what suffers the most.

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The three most important reasons I MAKE the time to take care of myself!

Now I’m not going to say I have now found some sort of perfect balance and I never get sick anymore. I still struggle with everything on my to-do list (because some things will never change) and my kiddies still bring home sniffles and coughs that as a Mom is hard to avoid. But, I have found that I am able to recover quicker and by taking some necessary steps to eating, exercise and stress management, I’m happy to report that 2011 was the last time I had any holiday sickness to report!

So this year I want to encourage you to remember my story.

By feeding your body what it needs to function at it’s very best and by exercising and sleeping more regularly to stay strong and manage stress, you are making YOU a priority. And no, this is NOT selfish because taking care of yourself is one of the best things you can do for those around you. When you take care of yourself you put yourself in a MUCH better position to take care of those you love.

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Wishing you all a safe, healthy and happy holiday season.

Warm Wishes
~ Deborah

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The Top Five Things To Do During the Last Few Days of your Pregnancy (First Time Moms)

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bathroombreakOK, it’s official. I SUCK at blogging. Well, maybe not the blogging part but certainly taking time to actually write the thoughts that are in my head. Whenever I think of an idea I would like to write about, I jot it down a piece of paper … which now has about 80 ideas … and this is my fourth post in two months. I have to get my act together.

A beautifully pregnant friend of mine posted today that she is past her due date and is getting impatient. Before I knew it, I wrote a novella of a comment for her. Ok, if I could take the time to do that, I can take the time to post here. Here is my comment to her and is for all those first time Moms-to-Be out there. I can see the moms of the group nodding in agreement now! ENJOY!

Top Five Things You Should Do During the Last Days of your Pregnancy

1. Decide you are going to leave the house and drive somewhere … then do it right away without having to pack half your house to take with you.  REALLY pay attention to how quick and easy this is. 🙂  Oh, and while you’re out, enjoy not having to look in your rear-view mirror two million times to make sure everyone is ok, pick up a sippy cup or toy off the floor (while you are driving…fun), stop on the side of the road to feed someone (or change a poopy diaper…more fun) or sing to a crying baby (making up words as you go along …”hush little baby we are almost home, please stop crying…la la la…”  OH, and listen to the music you want without having to listen or sing the “Wheels on the bus!”

2. Use the washroom and take a shower and pay CLOSE attention to how quiet it is without anyone crying for you, yelling out your name, opening the shower curtain or sliding their fingers under the door.

3. Go to a restaurant and enjoy a peaceful meal! Oh so blissful.

4. Go to a movie without having to pay TWO ARMS AND TWO LEGS. (just the regular arm and leg for the movie and popcorn – no babysitter)

5. Flip through the channels and DO NOT stop on Treehouse or Disney Jr. Watch whatever YOU want to watch. Toopee and Binoo (and similarly annoying voices will be there soon enough).

Bonus: Take time to write a blog post without a two and half year old destroying a play room or a 9-month old pulling on your pant leg! (Not that it is happening as we speak or anything).

Moms-to-be, this is all meant for fun but I know in a couple of months you’ll think about this post and smile! All this being said, I ADORE my children and wouldn’t trade mommyhood for anything … well, maybe the bathroom one. 😀 I wish you a peaceful day, a smooth and quick labour and delivery and most of all, a healthy and happy baby.